But Really, How Are You?

Learn, grow, and gain knowledge on emotional wellness. “But Really, How Are You?” dives into many of the real feelings you experience and investigates emotional wellbeing. Hear from psychology experts about how to dig into your emotions to experience a stronger connection with yourself and others. There’s something to learn from every episode.

We hope you’ll grow in your ability to recognize and understand your emotions and gain wellness tools to express your feelings in healthy ways. You’ll learn new skills for communication, conflict resolution, and relationship-building. With emotional wellbeing comes a centered understanding of you—meaning more balance, mindfulness, resilience, purposeful living, and a positive self-image. Join us on the journey to emotional wellbeing and personal growth!

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Episode 1: But Really, How Are You? introduction with CoryAnn Kleinhaus 
Welcome to the premier of “But Really, How Are You?” — a podcast focused on emotional wellbeing! We created this podcast to help people (myself included) learn, grow, and gain more knowledge about how to better understand our emotions and their impact on daily life.

In today’s show, I cover what our podcast is all about as well as a few of our other exciting projects that will help in this journey. Our hope is you’d be able to better recognize and understand your emotions with each episode. 

We can’t wait to embark on this journey to emotional wellbeing and personal growth and we’d love it if you’d come along for the ride!

Episode 2:  What emotional well-being is with Debbie Laaser 
To begin the journey towards emotional wellbeing, it’s important to understand why we have emotions and what they tell us.  

To help us better define emotional wellbeing, we talk to Debbie Laaser, who is a licensed marriage and family therapist. Not only will she help us understand the benefits of emotional health, but she will also share about how learning to listen to our own needs is one of the first important steps on the wellbeing journey. 

In this episode, we cover all the basics of emotional well-being, authenticity, and self-care. Our hope is you’ll gain a solid foundation on your emotional wellness journey.

Episode 3:  Financial psychology with Dr. Megan McCoy
Financial wellbeing is an important factor that influences our emotional wellness. Financial stress happens to everyone, but there are ways to cope with the anxieties that might arise because of it. Understanding our own views and beliefs around money is the first step toward financial wellbeing. 

On this episode, Dr. Megan McCoy joins us to discuss the various psychological views individuals hold about money called money scripts. She shares how our beliefs around money impacts our relationships, how we deal with financial stress, even how we raise our kids, and more!  

Dr. McCoy will leave you with a better understanding of financial psychology and equip you with tools to start you on your wellness journey.

Episode 4:  Emotional eating and COVID-19 with Dr. Heather Gallivan
Everywhere in the world, food brings people together. With restaurants closing and limited gatherings, COVID-19 has significantly changed the way that we interact with food and with each other. It has also affected, and maybe exaggerated, how we personally relate to food. 

In this episode, we hear from Dr. Heather Gallivan, Clinical Director of the Melrose Center. Dr. Gallivan shares how COVID-19 has impacted our relationship with food. She also provides practical tips for working toward a healthier relationship with food. 

This episode isn’t just about COVID; it’s about our relationships with food in general. So take a listen to understand your relationship with food and how it relates to your emotional wellbeing.

Episode 5:  COVID-19 and trauma with Dr. Madeleine De Little 
It was inevitable that a once-in-a-lifetime pandemic would impact our health and affect our emotional wellbeing. In this episode, Dr. Madeleine De Little, a trauma expert, shares about the impact of COVID-19 on our mental health. 

As Dr. De Little shares, trauma with a capital T is one big event, however, there are small traumas that happen to us on a daily basis—not realizing how they impact our wellbeing. With COVID-19, we’re afraid of getting sick and the way we interact with others has completely changed. 

In this episode, we learn about COVID-19’s impact on our overall health and wellbeing and how we gain a new sense of normalcy.

Episode 6: Why bother: Discovering the desire for what’s next with Jennifer Louden
What in your life are you bothering to care about? What do you desire? And how does that desire change? With the onset of COVID-19, life can sometimes seem even more mundane and purposeless. But every person needs a reason—a bother, if you will—to care about and give you purpose. 

Check out our discussion with Jennifer Louden about her new book, Why Bother: Discover the Desire for What’s Next. Jennifer gives simple, practical ideas to help find what you want to do in life. 

We hope this episode inspires you to think outside of the box about what your life could be and how you can feel a little more alive in your day-to-day. We believe it’s important to discover the deeper callings inside you that create meaning in your life. It’s never too late to discover what you should bother about in life.

Episode 7: Triggers and the layers below an emotion with Elizabeth Hardesty 
Something happens and you begin to feel a particular way. This is a trigger and what you feel is an emotion. But what do you do next to respond from a place of emotional well-being? 

In this episode, mental health counselor Elizabeth Hardesty shares the techniques she uses to help her clients dig deeper into an emotion. Learn about the iceberg technique, where you investigate what meanings, beliefs, and needs you may have around an emotion. Through this technique, you can learn to work through a strong emotion and share about it with others in a healthy way. 

So, let’s dive in to see the iceberg (pun intended).

Episode 8: Negativity Bias and Your Mindframe with Dr. Alison Ledgerwood
Is the glass half full or half empty? It is quite obvious that not everyone sees the glass exactly the same.  Negative and positive views are often formed by how something is described, but research by Dr. Alison Ledgerwood shows that it is a human tendency to get stuck in the negative mindframe. 

Join us for a discussion about positive and negative mindframes, what research says about them, and tactics for learning to reverse a negative outlook. In an approachable conversation, Dr. Ledgerwood shares about many important, yet incredibly easy, tactics that you can simply apply to your day to improve your positive psychology. This isn’t a magic fix, but the research they conducted does show you can change your mindframe if you work at it. 

Dr. Ledgerwood also shares about how negativity bias intersects with the psychology of racism, and how we can begin the discussion of overcoming this barrier as well. We hope that you find this to be an encouraging and empowering podcast episode!

Episode 9: How to Be Resilient with Dr. Rick Hanson
Life can throw many major challenges at us. Sometimes it is a big event, but for most people normal, everyday life requires us to find resilience from within. 

In this episode, we talk with Dr. Rick Hanson who shares how to find resilience in normal everyday life. He describes resilience as the capacity to recover from terrible experiences and the ability to keep pursuing our goals and life dreams while protecting our fundamental well-being.

You’ll learn how you have the capacity to change your brain to develop resilience by working on some vital and research-based human traits. We also talk about how you can find peace, meaning, and gratefulness in today’s unpredictable world.

Episode 10: Cultivating mindfulness with Dr. Ellen Langer
“Mindfulness” is thrown around in our modern vocabulary, but what does it actually mean? Dr. Ellen Langer, the Mother of Mindfulness and Harvard professor, has researched this subject for over 40 years. In this episode we’ll learn what mindfulness is and how to practice it.

Being present in the here and now is important for improving our mental well-being. It improves our relationships, increases contentment in life, and decreases our anxiety. Being present also has tremendous influences on our physical body and health. Did you know that mindfully working out can help you get fit faster? Dr. Ellen Langer shares about the many incredible benefits of mindfulness.

Episode 11: Caution Fatigue with Heather Erickson
Caution! We’re in the middle of a world pandemic, if you didn’t already know. There are warning signs everywhere about what we need to do to protect ourselves and others. But did you know that being warned of danger over and over again can lead to a phenomenon called “Caution Fatigue”? We can also experience another challenge called “Compassion Fatigue” especially those who care for others such as parents, teachers, and frontline workers.  

In this episode we talk with Heather Erickson, Director of Behavioral Health Services at Amery Hospital and Clinic, about Caution Fatigue and how it’s different from Compassion Fatigue. Heather shares how to recognize and name what we’re experiencing and how to work through these feelings.

Episode 12: Am I drinking too much in the pandemic? Discussing addiction with Dr. Jorja Jamison
Liquor sales have soared through the roof with the onset of the global pandemic. You’re not alone if your alcohol consumption has increased this year. Do you ever wonder how much is okay? Have you asked yourself if you should cut back? 

In this episode, we talk with Dr. Jorja Jamison from Hazelden Betty Ford Graduate School of Addiction Studies. She talks about substance abuse disorders, ways to reflect on our own alcohol use, and how to recognize when we or someone we know has a problem with an addiction. 

September is National Recovery Month, and we hope we can shed a little more light on the terrible disease that is addiction. Afterward, we hope you’ll have a framework for how you relate to alcohol.

Episode 13: Grief and loss with Dr. Mary-Frances O'Connor
Grief is a common emotion. It can be big or small. Big in the event of losing a loved one or experiencing a break up. And small in the everyday changes living through a pandemic has created. While it’s a common human experience, it’s often difficult to share it or understand how to work through it. 

Dr. Mary-Frances O’Connor is a top researcher in the field of psychology and grief. In this episode we discuss what causes grief, how it manifests in our body and mind, and how to work through it. She shares how to find meaning and purpose in our life in the wake of loss.

Episode 14: Psychology and racism with Dr. Richard Lee
The murder of George Floyd during the pandemic forever changed the world. His brutal death demonstrates how racism is still an issue in our modern world. While it’s easy to say “don’t be racist,” racism is rooted in how people perceive the world—the circumstances into which we are all born, our shared and individual history, and our psychology.

For over 20 years, Dr. Richard Lee has been researching  racial, ethnic, and migration experiences of immigrant and marginalized youth and families, and how these experiences impact their development and mental health. As a professor at the University of Minnesota in Minneapolis where George Floyd was killed, he is playing a key role in addressing and speaking out against racism. 

Dr. Richard Lee shares how to talk with your children about racism, the psychology behind it, and how we can change our world for the better.

Episode 15: The essentials of a healthy brain with Dr. Shane Creado
To achieve emotional and mental well-being, our brain needs to be healthy. Dr. Shane Creado is a board certified psychiatrist and sleep medicine doctor. This episode is all about how to get a healthy brain.

Brain health includes multiple factors, including sleep, nutrition, toxins, exercise, and your environment. Dr. Creado talks us through these factors and takes a deep dive on the importance of sleep! This episode is full of practical tips to help you improve your brain health. A healthy brain is the foundation for healthy mental and emotional well-being!

Episode 16: Effective communication with Bento Leal
Communication is an important aspect in any human relationship. So how can something so important lead to mixed messages? Bento Leal, a relationship skills trainer and author, focuses on helping individuals improve their communication skills and the importance of empathy—an essential ingredient in communication.

In this episode, Bento shares some of the obstacles that often prevent effective communication. He also shares how we can use empathy to become active listeners and speakers in our communication with others. He gives practical advice about how to structure our messages so that they can easily be heard and understood.

Communication is a necessary skill in any relationship, and we can improve this skill by learning about and practicing effective communication. 

This episode also kicks off our 4-part communication series. We’ll dive into different types of communication and how we can all be better communicators with one another.

Episode 17: Become a body language expert with Dr. David Matsumoto
In episode 2 of our communication series we learn about what is said when no one is speaking. This is non-verbal communication. Dr. David Matsumoto is the leading expert in the field of non-verbal communication—he and his team at Humintell have focused their research on body language and facial expression. 

Dr. Matsumoto talks about the common emotions in every culture and how facial expressions help us recognize them. As much as we would like to think we can hide how we feel, Dr. Matsumoto shares that our facial reactions often occur before we can hide our true emotions. (So maybe that RBF is saying more than we think?) Learn about how to read others and pick up on what they’re saying without speaking any words.

This episode is the second in our 4-part communication series. We’re diving into different types of communication and how we can all be better communicators with one another.

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